This blog title seems like an oxymoron. Like how do you really heal in difficulty? How do you heal when hardship is keeping you off balance? Well, it’s possible to heal during hardship. And it’s possible to rise.
Ease in Every Hardship
“Indeed, with every hardship is ease.” (Qur’an 94:6)
This ayah is a reminder that even if it seems like everything is going wrong, something is still going right. When we lose one thing, we gain another. And when we can’t think of anything we’ve actually gained, there are still innumerable blessings that we should be thankful for.
Finding Comfort in Dhikr
“No doubt, in the remembrance of Allah hearts find comfort.” ( Qur’an 13:28)
This ayah is a reminder that if we give our hearts to Allah and remember Him often, they will be soothed. This can be through salah, Qur’an, dhikr, just talking to Allah through your Du’a, or by simply falling in love with Him.
We should allow our tough times to bring us closer to Allah rather than take us away from Him. A person can blame their bad fate or even Allah all they want, but at the end of the day, who do we really have except Allah? He is the only one who truly understands our pain, and He is always waiting for us to turn back to Him. So, do not be dependant, submit to Allah Azza Wa Jal.
What you Want is not Always Good for You
“Perhaps you hate something and it’s good for you, and perhaps you love something and it’s bad for you. Allah knows, while you don’t know.” (Qur’an 2:216)
This reminder can be a tough pill to swallow, but it’s definitely much-needed. Sometimes we forget that even if we dislike something that happened to us, it may actually better for us. For example, if a friend hurts you and the friendship ends, it might be because Allah knew that friend wasn’t good for you. Or if you have someone you want to marry and they dump you, it’s because Allah wants to protect you from something you can’t see.
At times the hurtful situation may even be something we don’t see any benefit in, such as heartbreak caused by parents, children, or a spouse. But this is why the ayah ends with “Allah knows, while you don’t know.” When something like this happens, we need to trust that whatever happens is the will of Allah and He wants what is best for us, even if we don’t know the wisdom behind it right now.
Allah is Near
“Whenever My servants ask about Me, indeed, I am near. I respond to the call of the supplicant whenever he calls upon Me.” (Quran 2:186)
Whether it’s the morning or the middle of the night, Allah is always listening. We need to believe that He is hearing our prayers and will respond in the best way. It’s comforting to know that we can have a direct relationship with our Creator, any time of the day or night and regardless of what is happening in life. Allah will listen to you, so turn to him alone.
Steps to Heal During Hardship
I’ll like to share with you six steps to archive that. Hoping You stay with me through this.
- Recognize your Wound: Find the source so you can stop bleeding. Ignoring the wound and the pain prevents healing. After years of avoidance, it burst its way out in an uncontrollable manner. Then it deprives you of the right to function well as a human. Not recognizing your wound is you shutting yourself down. And that prevents you from living your potential and allow others to support you. Strength is not about numbing your pain and claiming nothing is happening. So, to recognize your wound try writing down all your pains. You’ll find out more than you expected. This will make you feel whole. Let your scar be your greatest strength.
- Recognize What you Need in Order to Heal: You know how our prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam ran to nana Khadija (RA)? And how he told her his worries and she comforted him? When you think something is wrong with and it hurts, it’s not a weakness. Reach out to your loved ones. It leads you to rise not just heal. If you need to cry, prophet Yaqub (AS) cried too, so let it out. If you feel scared, accept it the mother of Prophet Musa (AS) was too. So, don’t indulge, just let go, confined, and rise. Don’t dwell in the situation. Prophet Yaqub(AS) Cried but didn’t dwell in his grief. The mother of Musa(AS) was scared but didn’t dwell in her fear, she told her daughter what she needed.
- Remembrance of Allah Azza Wajal: With the remembrance of Allah indeed the heart finds ease. Call out to him with the most beautiful calling. Keep your tongue constantly moist in his remembrance. Recite the Qur’an on a regular basis. Fulfill your fardh and extend to Nafils, give out lots of Sadaqa. Be kind to others, enjoin good, forbid evil.
- Recognize the Chosen Examples of the Prophets: Surely in their lives, Allah has set for us so many examples to relate to. All you need to do is make an effort to learn about their story and take examples from them.
- Recognize the potential of your Wound: Where that pain you’re bottling up could land you are serious. Tackle your pain face them and solve them. Sabr & Salah are also other sources of peace and calm.
- Recognize that you are not Alone When Healing: Collaborate with people in you’re life when healing. They should understand your pain and healing process.
Yes! It is possible to function and live through the day without hardship. It is possible to feel joy and happiness even when having traces of pain. May Allah ease your pain and suffering. Surely Good days are coming. I hope you find this beneficial and worth reading. JazakAllah Khair for dropping by.